Most people just don’t feel a sense of peace, of calm, of serenity, throughout their day. And who can blame them when stress, anxiety and tiredness are just accepted to be part of modern life.
But there are some simple changes that you can make to help you feel a sense of calm which should ease those pesky stress and anxiety feelings too.
The Habits of Feeling Calm
A calm morning ritual.
Many people rush through their mornings, starting the day out in a stressful rush. Try waking up a little earlier and start with a little meditation and gather your thoughts. Also, try a gentle workout, exercise is a great morning activity, it sets you up for the day.
Learn to watch your response.
When something stressful happens, what is your response? Some people jump into action, others get angry, or overwhelmed. Watch your response, think before you act, it’s an important habit.
Don’t take things personally.
Many times the response to a situation is to take things personally. If someone does something we don’t like, often we tend to interpret this as a personal affront. Some people even think the universe is personally against them. But the truth is, it’s not personal, it’s the other person’s issue that they’re dealing with. They are doing the best they can. You can learn not to interpret events as a personal, and instead see it as some non-personal external event that you can either respond to without a stressful mindset or not need to respond to at all.
Lots of people talk about gratitude … but how often do we apply it to the events of our day? Drop the complaints, and find a way to be grateful, no matter what.
Create stress coping habits.
Many times, when we are faced with stress, we have unhealthy responses — anger, feeling overwhelmed, eating junk food, drinking alcohol, procrastinating, etc. Instead, we need healthy ways to cope with stress.
When you notice stress, watch how you cope with it, and then replace any unhealthy coping habits with healthier ones. Healthy stress coping habits include: drinking tea, exercise, yoga, meditation, massaging your own neck & shoulders, taking a walk, drinking some water, talking with someone you care about.
People multitask now more than ever. This is a great way to cause a level of anxiety that runs through everything you do because you’re always worried you should be doing more, doing something else. What if, instead, you just did one thing, and learned to trust that you shouldn’t be doing anything else? It takes practice: just eat. Just walk. Just talk to someone. Just read one article or book, without switching. Just write. Just do your email, one at a time, until your inbox is empty. You’ll learn that there is peace in just doing one thing, and let go of everything else.
Our lives are filled with all kinds of noise — visual clutter, notifications, social media, news, all the things we need to read. And truthfully, none of it is necessary. Reduce all these things and more, and create some space, some quiet, in your life.